Hey bros,
I know there are some crappy studies and some dump people who always say that you shouldn't think positive all the time because it gives you an unrealistic view on your life...but what the fuck should you do instead? Should you take place in the vicious circle of negative thoughts?
Ok it must not end in the worst case depression scenario but why should you take this risk?
Even if it might be unrealistic sometimes isn't it better to, at least, have a chance for getting a chick or a promotion...If you don't think positive you will end up in a dead-end-position...One who don't think positive because he tries to be realistic all the time will always have a smaller chance to reach the realistic goals, but won't have any chance to reach something above of which he always thought that it won't be realistic.
So always follow your dreams, even if they might be a little too high from your present point of view. In my opinion everybody who tries hard enough and have enough stamina can reach almost everything. Keep thinking positive and you get what you want...maybe not at once but mostly on time.
Thinking positive is hard sometimes (especially when nothing works out for you), but if you stand strong and keep your way of thinking you'll always be in a better mood and you'll end up reaching what you want...awesome hotties included ;-)
If you do what I recommend to you you are Mr. Positive in a short while and all people around you are going to recognize this...they try to be around you to gain a bit of your charisma and you feel like the awesomest guy ever!!!
Stay awesome...Mr. "Positive-Thinker"!
Yours,
Broda
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Why people don't get awesome!
Hello again bros,
Here's another interesting post I found during my research about how to be awesome. In fact this is a list why many people fail to be awesome sometimes. If you adopt everything from my previous posts you might not get in one of the traps which are descripte in the following article. Anyway it's good to read this to avoid the mistakes that have been written about.
P.S.: I added an info after every point (italic) where you can find more about this topic in my blog.
Article by Josh:
Who says business and pleasure can’t co-exist? It is quite interesting to see that business and getting laid have a lot in common. One of the most primitive needs we have as human beings is being able to reproduce and pass the seed on to future generations. In other words, survival and reproduction. The whole animal kingdom does it. We have to reproduce to survive as a race. In business we must expand and “marry” companies together, to survive in the competitive markets.
We sit at home wondering why life is not going the way we want to. We engage in self-doubt and think negatively of our situation and blame everyone else except ourselves. These are the top 7 reasons why you’re not getting laid or starting a business.
If you want to improve your dating life make sure to check out this website.
Top 7 Reasons Why You’re Not Getting Laid Or Starting A Business
1. Over-thinking.
You over-think everything. You ask too many questions in your head. Here are a few examples of what goes on in your head: What will happen if I ask him/her out? He/She probably won’t like me. What does he/she think of me? I wonder if he/she has a boyfriend/girlfriend? Gahhh. Yes, “gahhh,” is part of what goes on in your head. The same goes for business. When you start a business you think about similar questions. You ask yourself the “what if” questions and it discourages you. It scatters your brain and you are afraid to do anything about it. Suck it up and just do it.
Remember the post "The Key of being awesome"
2. Not going out.
You can’t expect a special fairy to sprinkle magical dust and bring women/men to you while you sit on your ass. It doesn’t matter where you go so long as there are some people present. It could be a bar or club, lounge, book store, grocery store, networking event, speed dating event, restaurant, friends house, the places are endless. Just get out there! This goes the same for business. Good companies don’t form themselves. The successful companies have employees and very rarely would you find a 1 man/woman operation. Getting out there and meeting professionals is essential to growing your brand and growing your business. If you have a blog/website you have to market it. You have to tell people or there will be no traffic and your blog or website will fold. Once again, it’s not just going to drop into your lap. It just doesn’t work that way. Get out there!
* Engage in conversation with a stranger. If you are scared to talk to men/women try talking to sales people at a clothing store. They are there to talk to you. This will help you practice talking to a random person.
* You never know who you are going to meet. By talking to random people you can never know who you will meet or who they will introduce you to. So start up a conversation! It’s fun.
Remember the posts "Be the Yes Man & The magic moment theory...awesome style"
3. Lack of confidence.
If you lack in confidence, you lack the fundamentals of getting laid or starting a business. If you look like you don’t care about yourself, no one will care about you. Take care of yourself by showering, smelling good and dressing well everyday. It will not only make you feel better, you will look better. If you look and feel better, you will gain more confidence. You never know what situation you will be in throughout the day. By looking good at every moment, you prepare for what could happen throughout the day. Here are 3 things that you could do to boost your confidence.
* Dress and smell good. Go buy yourself some new clothes. If you don’t know where to start, take a look a look at lifestyle magazines like GQ or Men’s Health and for women, Cosmo and Women’s Health. Get some fresh ideas on how you want to look and try and replicate it. Smelling good also boost confidence. If you get noticed by smelling good not only does it boost your moral, it boosts your confidence as well. Men and women equally love compliments, so give them, but not too often! (you would just sound insincere if you keep doing it)
* Get a haircut. Try something new. Sometimes we forget that we have had the same hairstyle for so long. Look at a magazines and see what could work for you. See if your barber or a salon can replicate it.
* Workout. Go hit the weights, run, walk your dog, etc. Even if its for a short time, take some time out of the day to take care of yourself.
In the next posts there will be an article about How to get an awesome body. So keep on reading my blog!
4. Can’t pull the trigger.
You have prepared your business plan, or your ready to ask the girl/guy of your dreams out on a date, and yet, you can’t do it. You just won’t pull the trigger. Self-doubt clouds your mind and you go back to 1st reason on why you’re not starting a business or getting laid. You over think it and say it will never happen. Stay positive and pull the trigger.
Remember the posts "Most awesome stuff happens beyond the comfort zone & Try to be awesome all the time"
5. Fear of rejection.
You fear the unknown and you won’t take a risk. You have to ask yourself, “what is the worst that could happen?” You have a 50/50 chance of the person saying yes or no. I like those chances. If you get rejected, move along and don’t take it too seriously. There are plenty of fish in the sea. With business, we fear rejection as well. You don’t want to go to the bank to ask for a loan application because you think you’re going to get denied. When you denied for job offers or a business loan you immediately discount yourself and say “maybe it’s never meant to be.” After you get rejected a couple of times, you will understand that it really isn’t that bad after all. My father always told me to try to get a “yes” answer from everything you do, and if you don’t get that answer, keep trying until you do.You have to fight the fear and face it. Get rejected, who cares! Move on, learn, and get over it.
Remember the posts "Most awesome stuff happens beyond the comfort zone & The awesome guy named Thomas Edison"
6. You’re Lazy.
When you are lazy, nothing in life will ever get accomplished. You have focus on what you want and go after it proactively. This encompasses almost all the traits of why you’re not getting laid or starting a business. You won’t take the time and effort to go through the learning processes. You won’t start because you feel like you won’t succeed. You put things off and wait till the last minute and you wonder why you aren’t succeeding.
Remember the posts "Being crazy and creative leads to the next higher level of awesome & Be effective to be awesome & When is the best time to start being awesome"
7. You’re a push-over.
You don’t have an opinion for yourself. You don’t say no to anyone and you are too nice. Have a voice. If you don’t agree with something, don’t say you do. If you don’t want to do something, stand ground and don’t go. Simple as that. Have a voice and people will listen. You can’t possibly make everyone happy. Do what makes you happy.
Remember the post "Be effective to be awesome"
This was done for entertainment purposes. My goals were not to offend anyone, but to open their eyes. We all have a lot of learning to do. Lets all take a look at these and see how we can eliminate them. We will move forward and we will succeed. Cheers, to getting laid and starting businesses. We can do it!
Source: Top 7 Reasons Why You’re Not Getting Laid Or Starting A Business
As you could see if you follow my advices from the previous posts you want fail to get laid.
However, thanks to Josh for this list of failures.
Stay awesome...and do the right things!
Yours,
Broda
Here's another interesting post I found during my research about how to be awesome. In fact this is a list why many people fail to be awesome sometimes. If you adopt everything from my previous posts you might not get in one of the traps which are descripte in the following article. Anyway it's good to read this to avoid the mistakes that have been written about.
P.S.: I added an info after every point (italic) where you can find more about this topic in my blog.
Article by Josh:
Who says business and pleasure can’t co-exist? It is quite interesting to see that business and getting laid have a lot in common. One of the most primitive needs we have as human beings is being able to reproduce and pass the seed on to future generations. In other words, survival and reproduction. The whole animal kingdom does it. We have to reproduce to survive as a race. In business we must expand and “marry” companies together, to survive in the competitive markets.
We sit at home wondering why life is not going the way we want to. We engage in self-doubt and think negatively of our situation and blame everyone else except ourselves. These are the top 7 reasons why you’re not getting laid or starting a business.
If you want to improve your dating life make sure to check out this website.
Top 7 Reasons Why You’re Not Getting Laid Or Starting A Business
1. Over-thinking.
You over-think everything. You ask too many questions in your head. Here are a few examples of what goes on in your head: What will happen if I ask him/her out? He/She probably won’t like me. What does he/she think of me? I wonder if he/she has a boyfriend/girlfriend? Gahhh. Yes, “gahhh,” is part of what goes on in your head. The same goes for business. When you start a business you think about similar questions. You ask yourself the “what if” questions and it discourages you. It scatters your brain and you are afraid to do anything about it. Suck it up and just do it.
Remember the post "The Key of being awesome"
2. Not going out.
You can’t expect a special fairy to sprinkle magical dust and bring women/men to you while you sit on your ass. It doesn’t matter where you go so long as there are some people present. It could be a bar or club, lounge, book store, grocery store, networking event, speed dating event, restaurant, friends house, the places are endless. Just get out there! This goes the same for business. Good companies don’t form themselves. The successful companies have employees and very rarely would you find a 1 man/woman operation. Getting out there and meeting professionals is essential to growing your brand and growing your business. If you have a blog/website you have to market it. You have to tell people or there will be no traffic and your blog or website will fold. Once again, it’s not just going to drop into your lap. It just doesn’t work that way. Get out there!
* Engage in conversation with a stranger. If you are scared to talk to men/women try talking to sales people at a clothing store. They are there to talk to you. This will help you practice talking to a random person.
* You never know who you are going to meet. By talking to random people you can never know who you will meet or who they will introduce you to. So start up a conversation! It’s fun.
Remember the posts "Be the Yes Man & The magic moment theory...awesome style"
3. Lack of confidence.
If you lack in confidence, you lack the fundamentals of getting laid or starting a business. If you look like you don’t care about yourself, no one will care about you. Take care of yourself by showering, smelling good and dressing well everyday. It will not only make you feel better, you will look better. If you look and feel better, you will gain more confidence. You never know what situation you will be in throughout the day. By looking good at every moment, you prepare for what could happen throughout the day. Here are 3 things that you could do to boost your confidence.
* Dress and smell good. Go buy yourself some new clothes. If you don’t know where to start, take a look a look at lifestyle magazines like GQ or Men’s Health and for women, Cosmo and Women’s Health. Get some fresh ideas on how you want to look and try and replicate it. Smelling good also boost confidence. If you get noticed by smelling good not only does it boost your moral, it boosts your confidence as well. Men and women equally love compliments, so give them, but not too often! (you would just sound insincere if you keep doing it)
* Get a haircut. Try something new. Sometimes we forget that we have had the same hairstyle for so long. Look at a magazines and see what could work for you. See if your barber or a salon can replicate it.
* Workout. Go hit the weights, run, walk your dog, etc. Even if its for a short time, take some time out of the day to take care of yourself.
In the next posts there will be an article about How to get an awesome body. So keep on reading my blog!
4. Can’t pull the trigger.
You have prepared your business plan, or your ready to ask the girl/guy of your dreams out on a date, and yet, you can’t do it. You just won’t pull the trigger. Self-doubt clouds your mind and you go back to 1st reason on why you’re not starting a business or getting laid. You over think it and say it will never happen. Stay positive and pull the trigger.
Remember the posts "Most awesome stuff happens beyond the comfort zone & Try to be awesome all the time"
5. Fear of rejection.
You fear the unknown and you won’t take a risk. You have to ask yourself, “what is the worst that could happen?” You have a 50/50 chance of the person saying yes or no. I like those chances. If you get rejected, move along and don’t take it too seriously. There are plenty of fish in the sea. With business, we fear rejection as well. You don’t want to go to the bank to ask for a loan application because you think you’re going to get denied. When you denied for job offers or a business loan you immediately discount yourself and say “maybe it’s never meant to be.” After you get rejected a couple of times, you will understand that it really isn’t that bad after all. My father always told me to try to get a “yes” answer from everything you do, and if you don’t get that answer, keep trying until you do.You have to fight the fear and face it. Get rejected, who cares! Move on, learn, and get over it.
Remember the posts "Most awesome stuff happens beyond the comfort zone & The awesome guy named Thomas Edison"
6. You’re Lazy.
When you are lazy, nothing in life will ever get accomplished. You have focus on what you want and go after it proactively. This encompasses almost all the traits of why you’re not getting laid or starting a business. You won’t take the time and effort to go through the learning processes. You won’t start because you feel like you won’t succeed. You put things off and wait till the last minute and you wonder why you aren’t succeeding.
Remember the posts "Being crazy and creative leads to the next higher level of awesome & Be effective to be awesome & When is the best time to start being awesome"
7. You’re a push-over.
You don’t have an opinion for yourself. You don’t say no to anyone and you are too nice. Have a voice. If you don’t agree with something, don’t say you do. If you don’t want to do something, stand ground and don’t go. Simple as that. Have a voice and people will listen. You can’t possibly make everyone happy. Do what makes you happy.
Remember the post "Be effective to be awesome"
This was done for entertainment purposes. My goals were not to offend anyone, but to open their eyes. We all have a lot of learning to do. Lets all take a look at these and see how we can eliminate them. We will move forward and we will succeed. Cheers, to getting laid and starting businesses. We can do it!
Source: Top 7 Reasons Why You’re Not Getting Laid Or Starting A Business
As you could see if you follow my advices from the previous posts you want fail to get laid.
However, thanks to Josh for this list of failures.
Stay awesome...and do the right things!
Yours,
Broda
Sunday, October 25, 2009
How to use Adult Dating Sites for getting laid every night!
Hey bros,
here's a nice article I found about essential ground rules of using adult dating sites. If you try to use the internet for getting chicks you should read this carefully to maximize your success. And if you use all the other stuff I told you yet I bet they will tell all their other hot female friends about you...;-)
Article by Jenna S.:
Okay be honest: how many times have you thought about what it'd be like to hook up with a different girl every night? Well now, you can find out firsthand thanks to Adult Personals sites. Follow these easy steps, and you may find yourself totally exhausted by the end of the week!
1.) Sign Up For Adult Dating
The first step to getting lots of tail is to join an Adult Personals site. By signing up for your free profile, you'll gain access to hundreds of beautiful and horny women in your area.
2.) Post Pictures
They say that a picture is worth a thousand words. With online dating, it could mean a thousand ladies. The bottom line is that women want to see what you look like before meeting you. No picture = no response. Post a nice headshot and body shot of yourself. No shots of your private area. Women only find those shots amusing at bachelorette parties.
3.) Write Snazzy Essays
With so many men out there finding hook ups too, you must find ways to stand out. One way is to write sharp essays in your profile. Keep them brief - and witty. After all, doesn't every woman want "a guy with a sense of humor?"
4.) Contact Lots Of Women
If you're looking to bed tons of ladies, you need to put in the time to find them. Make a point of writing to at least 5-10 women a day. Don't send out the same email to every girl - personalize each note, and you'll better your chances of getting a response. Be polite. Coming off like a pervert will only put off the woman you wrote to, and possibly get you reported to customer service for abuse.
5.) Be Positive & Easygoing
Women want to be put at ease when meeting men online. So the more cool and flexible you are, the more women will be open to meeting you. Also, if you don't get a response from someone you wrote to, or you get a "No, thank you," be a gentleman about it. You never know. The woman who turns you down may have a girlfriend or two for you instead.
There are other things you can do as well to boost your chances of hooking up with a different girl every night of the week. This includes, but is not limited to, staying fit, eating right, keeping yourself well-groomed, smiling, having good posture, having good social skills and being confident. Lastly, if you go out of your way to please your women in bed, it's almost guaranteed they'll keep coming back for more, for weeks on end!
Source: Jenna S.
Stay awesome...even if you are hunting online!
Yours,
Broda
here's a nice article I found about essential ground rules of using adult dating sites. If you try to use the internet for getting chicks you should read this carefully to maximize your success. And if you use all the other stuff I told you yet I bet they will tell all their other hot female friends about you...;-)
Article by Jenna S.:
Okay be honest: how many times have you thought about what it'd be like to hook up with a different girl every night? Well now, you can find out firsthand thanks to Adult Personals sites. Follow these easy steps, and you may find yourself totally exhausted by the end of the week!
1.) Sign Up For Adult Dating
The first step to getting lots of tail is to join an Adult Personals site. By signing up for your free profile, you'll gain access to hundreds of beautiful and horny women in your area.
2.) Post Pictures
They say that a picture is worth a thousand words. With online dating, it could mean a thousand ladies. The bottom line is that women want to see what you look like before meeting you. No picture = no response. Post a nice headshot and body shot of yourself. No shots of your private area. Women only find those shots amusing at bachelorette parties.
3.) Write Snazzy Essays
With so many men out there finding hook ups too, you must find ways to stand out. One way is to write sharp essays in your profile. Keep them brief - and witty. After all, doesn't every woman want "a guy with a sense of humor?"
4.) Contact Lots Of Women
If you're looking to bed tons of ladies, you need to put in the time to find them. Make a point of writing to at least 5-10 women a day. Don't send out the same email to every girl - personalize each note, and you'll better your chances of getting a response. Be polite. Coming off like a pervert will only put off the woman you wrote to, and possibly get you reported to customer service for abuse.
5.) Be Positive & Easygoing
Women want to be put at ease when meeting men online. So the more cool and flexible you are, the more women will be open to meeting you. Also, if you don't get a response from someone you wrote to, or you get a "No, thank you," be a gentleman about it. You never know. The woman who turns you down may have a girlfriend or two for you instead.
There are other things you can do as well to boost your chances of hooking up with a different girl every night of the week. This includes, but is not limited to, staying fit, eating right, keeping yourself well-groomed, smiling, having good posture, having good social skills and being confident. Lastly, if you go out of your way to please your women in bed, it's almost guaranteed they'll keep coming back for more, for weeks on end!
Source: Jenna S.
Stay awesome...even if you are hunting online!
Yours,
Broda
Monday, October 19, 2009
Addendum to the post about effectivness!
Hi bros,
short awesome addition to the time management topic:
The 30-second-rule
"If you can deal with something you should/want/ have to do within 30 seconds, you should deal with it right now."
With this rule you can manage a lot of small things better (quickies too ;-)) and you don't forget some of them.
It's more relaxed and you can handle everything better.
Yours,
Broda
short awesome addition to the time management topic:
The 30-second-rule
"If you can deal with something you should/want/ have to do within 30 seconds, you should deal with it right now."
With this rule you can manage a lot of small things better (quickies too ;-)) and you don't forget some of them.
It's more relaxed and you can handle everything better.
Yours,
Broda
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
When is the best time to start being awesome?
Hello bros,
many people tell that they will change their lifes, stop smoking, start a diet, start with sport, talk to this hot chick they see every morning in the elevator, start to be awesome etc.
The same people tell you they definitely will do this....from tomorrow on or more common from next monday on....I always ask them "why not right now?"
Do they really think it will work out better on the beginning of a week?? Why??
I tell you the reason why they never say now...
They are afraid of changes, risks, possible disappointments...they are afraid of leaving their personal comfort zone...in the end they are afraid of what normal people call "The Life"!
Pretty often when it comes to the monday they become chicken-hearted and start to look for excuse why they wanna postphone it to the next monday...this becomes a vicious circle and in the end they give up without really trying.
Are you like them? Be honest...
The good thing is it is never too late for a change...
Remember the post "Just do it"? Otherwise read it again (read the others again too) and then start to be awesome...not tomorrow, not even in one hour...NOW is always the right time for every life-changing-project!!!!
Be awesome...now!
Yours,
Broda
many people tell that they will change their lifes, stop smoking, start a diet, start with sport, talk to this hot chick they see every morning in the elevator, start to be awesome etc.
The same people tell you they definitely will do this....from tomorrow on or more common from next monday on....I always ask them "why not right now?"
Do they really think it will work out better on the beginning of a week?? Why??
I tell you the reason why they never say now...
They are afraid of changes, risks, possible disappointments...they are afraid of leaving their personal comfort zone...in the end they are afraid of what normal people call "The Life"!
Pretty often when it comes to the monday they become chicken-hearted and start to look for excuse why they wanna postphone it to the next monday...this becomes a vicious circle and in the end they give up without really trying.
Are you like them? Be honest...
The good thing is it is never too late for a change...
Remember the post "Just do it"? Otherwise read it again (read the others again too) and then start to be awesome...not tomorrow, not even in one hour...NOW is always the right time for every life-changing-project!!!!
Be awesome...now!
Yours,
Broda
Monday, October 12, 2009
Be effective to be awesome!
Hello bros,
this time it's all about being effective and to what it is going to lead to.
Some of you might already know the difference between effective and efficent...
I explain it with a sales example for those who don't know:
As a sales guy you can work very efficent by making 60 calls/h...10h/day...without a break you complete 600 calls/day...every day...in the evening you're totally exhausted...no time for being awesome...no time for pick up sexy chicks...and in the end you just close some small deals...you don't earn much money...don't get the ladies...don't get the promotion...don't be awesome...in fact you don't get the life you deserve as a bro...
The other sales guy (one like me ;-))...you just work max. 6 h/day (and that still is too much)...you make just one call/h but you talk more, laugh and have fun with the guy on the other side...you've just hot contacts and don't make any cold call...you work with a self-builded network...your work is at ease...you go out and close big deals...you don't waste time with stupid prospects of whom you already know that they won't buy...you have an awesome life with fun, money, power and girls...you really work effective...that's what you bros deserve...
The good thing is you always can become one of the second kind.
I know you ask yourself "how?" by now...
Here are some tricks of how-to-be more effective (which normally leads to a better life):
- avoid time wasters: Don't check your mails every five minutes. That costs a lot of time and you'll never be focused. Don't do what is anyone else work (no problem if you do someone a favor but don't do favors all day). Don't call cold-contact-lists. Don't meet with prospects of whom you already know that they don't buy (some just do this over and over to show their boss that they are busy as a bee...read the next point about this). You can find more about this topic in "the 4-hour work week" of Timothy Ferris...I recommend to read this one no matter what you do for living.
- always think result-orientated: Nobody cares about what you do at work when you don't generate wealth (no matter what kind of) for the company. If you cook coffee every day no one will care about when it comes to fire or promote someone. Everything that really counts for any company is generating wealth (even if you're in customer service you make customers more happy and they will recommend your company which leads to a higher turnover and more wealth). Important: You just get paid for your results not for your effort! Remember this!!
- jump off projects/clients that are already lost: If you realize it makes no sense anymore go to your supervisor and tell him...if he don't accept then go to his boss. Nothing is worse for your self-esteem and for your (personal and financial) satisfaction than waste hour after hour in a dead-end project. Don't do this to you...you have to do something to generate wealth!
- don't do cold calls: They don't work! Think about it (from your own experience). Or read "Never cold call again" from Frank Rumbauskas if you want more explanations and solutions.
- think about how you can manipulate your supervisor: You should get the hot contacts/the prestigious projects and the letter of recommendation for the next post. So be nice but focused...show him/her how you can help him/her to achieve their personal goals and he/she will help you to achieve yours. If it's a she...nail her and than your position will be better in most cases...;-)
- think about who are your friends and who aren't: Your friends could help you by supporting you in hard times...you should return the favor. When you have enemies than you should know them...and fight them with their own weapons or if they can't sabotage you then just ignore them and care about the positive stuff.
-do networking: Read the post about "stay in touch...with everybody"!
- think about what parts of your work really lead to success: Eliminate everything else (ecxept the stuff you like...). Focus on this and you are successful in a short time.
- organize your time: By doing so you can save time every day and decrease your stress level which brings you to more awesome time to relaxe or have sex or sleep or or or...You can find a lot good tips in the internet or in different books. One important principle is the one of pareto. It says that you can achieve 80% success with 20% of your work/time...so just do the important 20% two times a day and you can reduce worktime by 60% and get 200% outcome...:-) This makes a big difference if you always keep that in mind!
- in every decision you have to make think about weather or not it helps you to achieve your targets: Self-explaining.
- set priorities: This is a very important point to organize your day/life. Try this priorization-system of Eisenhower: Make four quarters and lable them like this...1st urgent and important; 2nd urgent but unimportant; 3rd not urgent but important; 4th not urgent and unimportand. Now allocate your "duties" to those quarters. Do everything in the first quarter asap, deligate the stuff from the second quarter or do it after you did the other stuff, set yourself deadlines/milestones for everything in the 3rd and do them on your own, when it comes to the 4th...throw it in the trash can.
- show your balls: Don't let others use you and say no to those who won't help you or others. Think about the bank of favors in this context. Sometimes you have to be the tough guy to show you are capable of being a leader and you are worth to be supported. You're the man!
- try to seperate free time from work time: Nothing is more important than to relaxe from work and to enjoy awesome free time. If you can't separate your free time from your work you face an unhappy life full of sorrows with a early end. Think about this worst case to show yourself why you should enjoy free time without thinking of work...
- be honest to yourself: Are you really capable of doing this job? Do you like it? Do you think you'll be happy with it? Can you earn enough to make your dreams come true? --> if you answer any of this questions with no quit your job as soon as possible... (Attention: If you have kids or others you have to care about than find a solution for them before you quit! But do it anyway.)
You can implement most of this stuff in every area of your life...I just took the work example to make the points clear for everybody.
Be awesome...effectively!
Yours,
Broda
this time it's all about being effective and to what it is going to lead to.
Some of you might already know the difference between effective and efficent...
I explain it with a sales example for those who don't know:
As a sales guy you can work very efficent by making 60 calls/h...10h/day...without a break you complete 600 calls/day...every day...in the evening you're totally exhausted...no time for being awesome...no time for pick up sexy chicks...and in the end you just close some small deals...you don't earn much money...don't get the ladies...don't get the promotion...don't be awesome...in fact you don't get the life you deserve as a bro...
The other sales guy (one like me ;-))...you just work max. 6 h/day (and that still is too much)...you make just one call/h but you talk more, laugh and have fun with the guy on the other side...you've just hot contacts and don't make any cold call...you work with a self-builded network...your work is at ease...you go out and close big deals...you don't waste time with stupid prospects of whom you already know that they won't buy...you have an awesome life with fun, money, power and girls...you really work effective...that's what you bros deserve...
The good thing is you always can become one of the second kind.
I know you ask yourself "how?" by now...
Here are some tricks of how-to-be more effective (which normally leads to a better life):
- avoid time wasters: Don't check your mails every five minutes. That costs a lot of time and you'll never be focused. Don't do what is anyone else work (no problem if you do someone a favor but don't do favors all day). Don't call cold-contact-lists. Don't meet with prospects of whom you already know that they don't buy (some just do this over and over to show their boss that they are busy as a bee...read the next point about this). You can find more about this topic in "the 4-hour work week" of Timothy Ferris...I recommend to read this one no matter what you do for living.
- always think result-orientated: Nobody cares about what you do at work when you don't generate wealth (no matter what kind of) for the company. If you cook coffee every day no one will care about when it comes to fire or promote someone. Everything that really counts for any company is generating wealth (even if you're in customer service you make customers more happy and they will recommend your company which leads to a higher turnover and more wealth). Important: You just get paid for your results not for your effort! Remember this!!
- jump off projects/clients that are already lost: If you realize it makes no sense anymore go to your supervisor and tell him...if he don't accept then go to his boss. Nothing is worse for your self-esteem and for your (personal and financial) satisfaction than waste hour after hour in a dead-end project. Don't do this to you...you have to do something to generate wealth!
- don't do cold calls: They don't work! Think about it (from your own experience). Or read "Never cold call again" from Frank Rumbauskas if you want more explanations and solutions.
- think about how you can manipulate your supervisor: You should get the hot contacts/the prestigious projects and the letter of recommendation for the next post. So be nice but focused...show him/her how you can help him/her to achieve their personal goals and he/she will help you to achieve yours. If it's a she...nail her and than your position will be better in most cases...;-)
- think about who are your friends and who aren't: Your friends could help you by supporting you in hard times...you should return the favor. When you have enemies than you should know them...and fight them with their own weapons or if they can't sabotage you then just ignore them and care about the positive stuff.
-do networking: Read the post about "stay in touch...with everybody"!
- think about what parts of your work really lead to success: Eliminate everything else (ecxept the stuff you like...). Focus on this and you are successful in a short time.
- organize your time: By doing so you can save time every day and decrease your stress level which brings you to more awesome time to relaxe or have sex or sleep or or or...You can find a lot good tips in the internet or in different books. One important principle is the one of pareto. It says that you can achieve 80% success with 20% of your work/time...so just do the important 20% two times a day and you can reduce worktime by 60% and get 200% outcome...:-) This makes a big difference if you always keep that in mind!
- in every decision you have to make think about weather or not it helps you to achieve your targets: Self-explaining.
- set priorities: This is a very important point to organize your day/life. Try this priorization-system of Eisenhower: Make four quarters and lable them like this...1st urgent and important; 2nd urgent but unimportant; 3rd not urgent but important; 4th not urgent and unimportand. Now allocate your "duties" to those quarters. Do everything in the first quarter asap, deligate the stuff from the second quarter or do it after you did the other stuff, set yourself deadlines/milestones for everything in the 3rd and do them on your own, when it comes to the 4th...throw it in the trash can.
- show your balls: Don't let others use you and say no to those who won't help you or others. Think about the bank of favors in this context. Sometimes you have to be the tough guy to show you are capable of being a leader and you are worth to be supported. You're the man!
- try to seperate free time from work time: Nothing is more important than to relaxe from work and to enjoy awesome free time. If you can't separate your free time from your work you face an unhappy life full of sorrows with a early end. Think about this worst case to show yourself why you should enjoy free time without thinking of work...
- be honest to yourself: Are you really capable of doing this job? Do you like it? Do you think you'll be happy with it? Can you earn enough to make your dreams come true? --> if you answer any of this questions with no quit your job as soon as possible... (Attention: If you have kids or others you have to care about than find a solution for them before you quit! But do it anyway.)
You can implement most of this stuff in every area of your life...I just took the work example to make the points clear for everybody.
Be awesome...effectively!
Yours,
Broda
Friday, October 9, 2009
Short Note: How to run the NYC Marathon!
Hello bros,
according to Barney Stinson there are two steps of finishing a marathon...
Step 1: Start running
Step 2: There is no step two...
;-))
This is also an example of how "Just do it" and "Leaving the comfort zone" could be integrated in your life...
Belive it or not...this is how it works (all the worldclass athletes are doing it that way...maybe they are a bit faster then you are ;-) ...but anyway who cares)
If you want to you can try it out on the 1st of November this year...please tell me afterwards how you feel (physically and mentally)...I'm very interested in it ;-)
Stay awesome...even if you just have ran 42,195 km!
Yours,
Broda
btw: Here you can find more information about NYC Marathon
according to Barney Stinson there are two steps of finishing a marathon...
Step 1: Start running
Step 2: There is no step two...
;-))
This is also an example of how "Just do it" and "Leaving the comfort zone" could be integrated in your life...
Belive it or not...this is how it works (all the worldclass athletes are doing it that way...maybe they are a bit faster then you are ;-) ...but anyway who cares)
If you want to you can try it out on the 1st of November this year...please tell me afterwards how you feel (physically and mentally)...I'm very interested in it ;-)
Stay awesome...even if you just have ran 42,195 km!
Yours,
Broda
btw: Here you can find more information about NYC Marathon
Thursday, October 8, 2009
The magic moment theory...awesome style!
Hello bros,
I'd been away for a few days. Apology for not telling you before.
But let's get back to business...
If you've ever read a book of awesome writer Paulo Coelho you might have heard of the daily magic moment in which you can change your entire life.
He says that every day there is at least one moment in which you have the chance to change your whole life. You just have to recognize them and take the chance if you want a change...it's not said that it'll be always a good one, but it could be...in fact if you never try you'll never know...
Think about my posts before than you can understand better what I want to tell you with this.
To think in really awesome dimensions...like me...you can broaden this statement of Paulo...
There are not just a few moments in which you can dramatically change your life...you are almost always able to decide to change your whole life/future (exceptions are situations in which you can't change your behaviour or the circumstances like when you are in the hospital).
It's always in your hands to act different and to make your life more interesting e.g. quit your job and move to argentina...latin chicks are hot ;-)
Stay awesome...and never forget, you can make the change...always!
Yours,
Broda
I'd been away for a few days. Apology for not telling you before.
But let's get back to business...
If you've ever read a book of awesome writer Paulo Coelho you might have heard of the daily magic moment in which you can change your entire life.
He says that every day there is at least one moment in which you have the chance to change your whole life. You just have to recognize them and take the chance if you want a change...it's not said that it'll be always a good one, but it could be...in fact if you never try you'll never know...
Think about my posts before than you can understand better what I want to tell you with this.
To think in really awesome dimensions...like me...you can broaden this statement of Paulo...
There are not just a few moments in which you can dramatically change your life...you are almost always able to decide to change your whole life/future (exceptions are situations in which you can't change your behaviour or the circumstances like when you are in the hospital).
It's always in your hands to act different and to make your life more interesting e.g. quit your job and move to argentina...latin chicks are hot ;-)
Stay awesome...and never forget, you can make the change...always!
Yours,
Broda
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